My heart ached as I drove to work, the tears trickled down my face; I so badly wanted to be home with my son. I could not work away from home. I tried many failed jobs, turned down job offers, but in my heart I knew that I could not leave my babies. So what do you do when you’re facing a mountain of student loan debt, need income, but can’t leave that sweet bundle of joy? Well, I opened home daycare and blog. It is absolute madness about 90% of the time, but I love it. I’m home with my babies, making income, and influencing the world for Christ’s sake.
What’s your passion? What do you want to do? For me, these questions took a couple years to answer. As a newlywed I worked as a bank teller. Once I grew tired of that I returned to school to finish my degree. Spring Arbor University has an amazing adult Ed program to help you finish school while working, parenting, etc. I enrolled in the family life education program knowing that I wanted to help and influence people. Little more than half way through the program I was 9 months pregnant, supposed to do an internship, but just couldn’t. I switched programs and took a break to have baby number 1. I returned a couple months later to finish my degree in organizational management. I finished! But I dreaded going to work and was about due for baby number 2. At this point I began the process to open daycare. I enjoy working with kids, had watched friends’ kids, and was able to be home. But I still had a desire to do more.
Blogging had been on my heart and mind. I am a mother of two, care provider for more, wife, and servant of the Most High.
You don’t have to open up your home to rambunctious toddlers to stay home (unless you’re crazy like me) but you can blog. Join me on my journey through faith, marriage, motherhood, and daycare. If I can do this you can too!
Please leave a comment of what you do! Let’s generate more ideas to enable moms to stay home with their most preciouses!
There are so many scriptures related to being thankful. The best way to stay positive in trying times is to be thankful. When you focus on the good things in life, you feel better. Focusing on positives and what is good improves your outlook and makes you feel better. Obviously I am thankful for my husband, children and house, but sometimes as I’m cleaning up after everyone my mind wanders into a place of pride, discontentment, and irritation. I lose my thankfulness, and instead I wonder why my husband can’t pick up a sock or empty cup. And when the washer gets clogged I feel relieved that I have an excuse to not do laundry until my hubby can fix it. So here’s how I see the blessings when I’m not feeling blessed.
I think about the things that are good in my life. I’m thankful that I have someone to pick up after, instead of being lonely. My husband is my best friend and love of my life. I’m so grateful I have him. Im I’m thankful for cheerios on the floor because it means my baby is alive and well, home with me. I’m thankful for my three year-old’s strong personality because one day he will be a great leader, and his strong opinion means he will take a stand against things he opposes. I’m thankful I can do laundry – I have the physical ability to do so and don’t have to go to a laundromat or down to the river like in third-world countries. I’m thankful for food to clean up because that means my family has been blessed with enough to eat. The blessings can be found even in the mess and frustration of life.
Like many moms I get frustrated with the daily mess, to do lists, and crying children, but I wouldn’t want to be anywhere else. God has given me a beautiful family and more provision than I could ask for. What are you thankful? What are your blessings in the midst of chaos. Please share.
Since junior year of high school (I graduated in 2011) I have been chasing, praying, worrying, about, and planning for life, career, school. I have been so discontent because in my heart I always wanted to be wife and mother and be home with my babies, but in my mind I thought I had to do something else and be someone else. I always thought that being a mom wasn’t enough. In school they didn’t teach that being a stay at home mom was an option.
But I’m here today with my handsome husband and two babies to say that God can do incredibly beyond what you can imagine! In the book of Esther a beautiful and kind Hebrew woman is chosen to be queen after the king’s wife refuses to come to him. Once Esther was queen, she heard from her cousin, who raised her, that the king’s chief official was plotting to kill all Hebrews. Mordecai, her cousin, urges her to save the Israelites by saying, “Perhaps you were made queen for such a time as this,” ( Est . 4 :14). Esther used her beauty and position to appeal to the king to not kill the Hebrews, and it worked! Esther was queen to be used by God to save his people. Just like Esther, you and I have a purpose.
God has predestined a plan and purpose for each of us. For some women it is a career, service, a gift or talent, and for others it is motherhood.
I was born for such a time as this! I am raising godly boys, who will one day be mighty men of God. This is my for “such a time as this.” For those of you who would say that my identity should not be just in my kids, I agree, but that’s not what I am getting at. It is enough for me to be a mom! If this is your high calling too, it is enough for you to be a mom and stay home. If you can live off your husband’s income, stay home! Your kids need you, and you need to be obedient to what God has for you! It is so hard to be disobedient and strive for something that is not meant for you. I give you permission to mommy on! I’m doing it, you can too!
“We know that in all things God works together for the good of those who love him and are called according to his purpose.” Romans 8:28